im 15, my dad has never hurt me in anyway but im getting worried recently cos he always winks at me and earlier saying he would 'smack my bum' if i didnt do the dishes, but in a jokey sort of way. it made me cry because i worried about it hearing all of those stories about dads sexually abusing there daughters and things. maybe im just over reacting? or maybe my dad doesnt accept that ive grown up and it isnt appropriate anymore?