Is he interested suddenly or am I imagining it?

[R0CKSTARt]

I met this guy when I was 16, at church. Naturally, I started going to youth functions because I knew he'd be there (how pathetic). He wasn't interested, obviously. I got to know his whole family pretty well.

The summer after freshman year of college, Ty needed a summer job, and my dad hired him at the family business. I also work, so Ty and I ended up spending a lot of time together over the summer. He was with us til this february..
We use to do crazy stuff--sprayed me with windex, duct taped my mouth, and use to tease me about my butt. The last time we worked together, he joked "Allie, I'm not going to strip for you." Out of the blue.

After he left work, we didnt talk. I wished him happy birthday in june. and his comment was "I thought you hated me" I saw him on a church trip this summer, and we talked but werent connected.

Then...out of the blue, he writes me a few weeks ago on fb chat. To ask me...how to do a bunch of emoticons (like he couldnt google these?) we end up having a 40 min conversation. At the end of which he asks if Im going to the county fair that weekend.

Last week..I kept running into him. Everywhere. On saturday night I wrote him. then he said I should text him if i wanted to continue. He NEVER texts. We then started texting.
Today I had to stop by his family house to sign a thank you card. When I pulled up in the driveway, I noticed only he and his dad's trucks were there. I knocked on the door..and he answered. He just gave me this look I cant explain. I asked about the cards, he had no clue. He said his dad was in the shower. Then, he stepped back and swung the door wide open. Like a normal person would do when they invite you in. "Do you have to be anywhere??" He asked me, as he opened the even wider. I just looked at him. And looked at me. With this intensity. THen his dad came around the corner, and the moment was lost.
I just keep thinking about the weird stuff he's doing lately, and the look he gave me when he opened the door. Like if his dad hadnt been in the other room...
Is he interested, or am I imagining it? We're both 20 now, btw.

 

[RachaelBrown]

He has known you for a very long time, and sometimes he asks you questions, just to get a conversation started. Sometimes, when you spend a long time with someone, they just want some space. When you give them enough space, then they come back to you, sometimes they don't, but that's okay because you can always move on. I think Ty thinks of you as a friend, or maybe family, you never know he could have a crush on you! Find out what you have in common and get to know each other inside and out, learn each others secrets. I don't think you are imagining it, he'll come around.

 

[Sunflower]

Yes, he likes you, but the statement ' I thought you hated me' speaks volumes.

He's feeling vulnerable, and its more than just you. He needed a job; your father hired him. That puts him in a pickle: should he ask the boss's daughter out, the one he felt was giving him mixed signals?

Truthfully you should come clean about your feelings, and you might want to discuss with your father how to proceed with dating his employee. If things don't work out, would things be hostile at work for him? Could he find other employment easily? There's a lot at stake here. I hope things work out and that you have at the least found a lifelong friend. But you aren't in high school any more-the stakes are much higher and the repercussions of the 'grown up' kind. So go for it-but be a grown up about it.

 

[Rach]

I'm guessing he's interested. Go with your gut feeling! It's always right.