I have been seperated from my son's father for a year (living in a new place entirely for that year with my son). My son is 13 and will be 14 this coming July. I am really fond of someone new. He is a great guy who also has a 13 year old son who goes to my son's same school their not technically friends but have seen each other passing in the halls. My son and this man have met at a mutual friends house during a gathering a couple of times, and spoke to each other at a rollerskating party (actually played a couple of games of air hockey).
The man is great, I like his values, his work ethics, his parenting skills and the amazing love he shows for his son. He cares about his son's academics and wants to be involved in every aspect of his son's life. The kids mom has moved on currently married and has had several other kids but his father is alone.
This man shares similar interests in music such as playing the piano and drums and in sports (e.g. boxing) as my son. This man is a gentlemen and has hinted at different opportunities that he doesn't mind taking my son to the park to play basketball, or teaching him what he knows about music. He also said if I ever was sick (e.g. had a cold or the flu that he doesn't mind coming over to cook a meal for my son and I if I wasn't feeling up to it)
How long should I wait to tell my son? I don't want to hide the relationship from him. I know for a fact that my ex-husband has moved on and is dating but has never introduced our son to anyone. This man that I am fond of will not be spending the night at any period of time when my son is home. I believe in providing my son with respect and want to display a level of moral conduct in front of him. But I seeking companionship from this individual and we are taking it slow because the most important things right now in our lives are raising our kids. We both seem to take our parenting role seriously. Want the kids to move on to high school graduate and pursue a college degree.
Should I wait till my ex-husband starts introducing my son to other people. Or should I just go ahead and start. I would like to introduce this man as a friend and then later on let my son put to and to together. I have been with my son's father for 12 years seperated then divorced and living seperatly for an entire year.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated
The man is great, I like his values, his work ethics, his parenting skills and the amazing love he shows for his son. He cares about his son's academics and wants to be involved in every aspect of his son's life. The kids mom has moved on currently married and has had several other kids but his father is alone.
This man shares similar interests in music such as playing the piano and drums and in sports (e.g. boxing) as my son. This man is a gentlemen and has hinted at different opportunities that he doesn't mind taking my son to the park to play basketball, or teaching him what he knows about music. He also said if I ever was sick (e.g. had a cold or the flu that he doesn't mind coming over to cook a meal for my son and I if I wasn't feeling up to it)
How long should I wait to tell my son? I don't want to hide the relationship from him. I know for a fact that my ex-husband has moved on and is dating but has never introduced our son to anyone. This man that I am fond of will not be spending the night at any period of time when my son is home. I believe in providing my son with respect and want to display a level of moral conduct in front of him. But I seeking companionship from this individual and we are taking it slow because the most important things right now in our lives are raising our kids. We both seem to take our parenting role seriously. Want the kids to move on to high school graduate and pursue a college degree.
Should I wait till my ex-husband starts introducing my son to other people. Or should I just go ahead and start. I would like to introduce this man as a friend and then later on let my son put to and to together. I have been with my son's father for 12 years seperated then divorced and living seperatly for an entire year.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated