Should "First Mothers" (abandoners) not whine about being coerced when meeting the
children they abandoned? Don't you think adoptees have enough of our own crap to work through? (I'm an adoptee, BTW)..
Doesn't it seem like it's all about the "Mother" when adoptees were really the ones who were abandoned?
Aislin, I beg to differ. You see, I don't OWE my abandoner anything. I didn't ask to be given for adoption. She may have been "coerced". I'm not denying that it happens. But coercion is not the same as force and the adoptee is the ONLY one who has NO CHOICE in the matter. It would just be nice to see some "first mothers" taking responsibility for a change. A simple "I'm sorry" would suffice. Spare me the back story for now, thanks.
I'm not "angry", I'm just being a realist. I don't owe anything to the person who gave me up. Any more than I owe anything to my adopters for raising me.
children they abandoned? Don't you think adoptees have enough of our own crap to work through? (I'm an adoptee, BTW)..
Doesn't it seem like it's all about the "Mother" when adoptees were really the ones who were abandoned?
Aislin, I beg to differ. You see, I don't OWE my abandoner anything. I didn't ask to be given for adoption. She may have been "coerced". I'm not denying that it happens. But coercion is not the same as force and the adoptee is the ONLY one who has NO CHOICE in the matter. It would just be nice to see some "first mothers" taking responsibility for a change. A simple "I'm sorry" would suffice. Spare me the back story for now, thanks.
I'm not "angry", I'm just being a realist. I don't owe anything to the person who gave me up. Any more than I owe anything to my adopters for raising me.