BabyDoll<31
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- Oct 11, 2012
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...alarm bell to run? i love my bf to bits, but i know he has a temper and a short fuse. today he got angrier than ive ever seen him, and it scared me to bits. i dont know if this is one of those moments where its best to leave before things get even worse, or whether to forgive him coz it was just a moment of heat.
i went over to his today in a great mood after getting a new job offer and buying dinner and wanting to cook for him and have a good day with him in general, but when i got there he seemed distant, but he was busy doing things around the house so i helped him by doing his dishes.
then i turned around and saw him doubled over with his hand over his face so i asked what was wrong and he raised his voice and said 'i just hit my head leave me alone will you,' so i said nothing and continued what i was doing. then he asked me to sit on the bed and see if i could notice anything different and after i said i couldnt he got annoyed and kept asking me the same question and i kept replying that i honestly dont know could he not just tell me. (im not very observant, if someone changed my own mattress i probably wouldnt even realise)
at the time he had a dvd player in his hand, and after i said that he lifted the dvd player up and look genuinely pissed off and said if i was a guy he'd smash my face in with the dvd player. although hes never made a gesture like that before, ive seen him get that pissed off plenty of times.
then he asked me the same question again and terrified i just asked did he get a new mattress or sthn and then he looked even angrier (like, there was a murderous look in his eyes) and shouted and said he'd love to smash it in my face.
now, we've had a rough couple of weeks where both our lucks have been down and we've been at each other, but today i genuinely did nothing wrong, came home in a good mood ready to cook for him, and for some reason he exploded like that. i spoke to two of my girl mates (they live in his block of flats) and they said that was out of order and that i shouldnt put up with that. one of them has been in an abusive relationship before and she said thats how it starts.
after the arguement i went back down to his, and we argued some more because he couldnt understand why i felt so hurt and scared and brought up the arguing over past few weeks as if it was all my fault, and i almost left him but we eventually spoke calmly and after i started crying, he started crying too, and opened up to me about his past like he never has before, and said hes sorry he gets so angry but coz of his crappy past he has genuine anger issues,
i dont know whether to forgive this as a once off heat of the moment gesture, especially considering how upset he got when he understood how he made me feel, and considering he really has had a rough past, or whether to take this as an early sign of an abusive boyfriend and end it,
what do you think? i really love this guy but i dont want to be beaten up either.
i went over to his today in a great mood after getting a new job offer and buying dinner and wanting to cook for him and have a good day with him in general, but when i got there he seemed distant, but he was busy doing things around the house so i helped him by doing his dishes.
then i turned around and saw him doubled over with his hand over his face so i asked what was wrong and he raised his voice and said 'i just hit my head leave me alone will you,' so i said nothing and continued what i was doing. then he asked me to sit on the bed and see if i could notice anything different and after i said i couldnt he got annoyed and kept asking me the same question and i kept replying that i honestly dont know could he not just tell me. (im not very observant, if someone changed my own mattress i probably wouldnt even realise)
at the time he had a dvd player in his hand, and after i said that he lifted the dvd player up and look genuinely pissed off and said if i was a guy he'd smash my face in with the dvd player. although hes never made a gesture like that before, ive seen him get that pissed off plenty of times.
then he asked me the same question again and terrified i just asked did he get a new mattress or sthn and then he looked even angrier (like, there was a murderous look in his eyes) and shouted and said he'd love to smash it in my face.
now, we've had a rough couple of weeks where both our lucks have been down and we've been at each other, but today i genuinely did nothing wrong, came home in a good mood ready to cook for him, and for some reason he exploded like that. i spoke to two of my girl mates (they live in his block of flats) and they said that was out of order and that i shouldnt put up with that. one of them has been in an abusive relationship before and she said thats how it starts.
after the arguement i went back down to his, and we argued some more because he couldnt understand why i felt so hurt and scared and brought up the arguing over past few weeks as if it was all my fault, and i almost left him but we eventually spoke calmly and after i started crying, he started crying too, and opened up to me about his past like he never has before, and said hes sorry he gets so angry but coz of his crappy past he has genuine anger issues,
i dont know whether to forgive this as a once off heat of the moment gesture, especially considering how upset he got when he understood how he made me feel, and considering he really has had a rough past, or whether to take this as an early sign of an abusive boyfriend and end it,
what do you think? i really love this guy but i dont want to be beaten up either.