I am a normal woman and I do own a vibrator but I just wanted to get some opinions on this. Why do some people need extra stuff to get off? When I am with my boyfriend my body gets very hot and when we are having sex it feels like heaven and ever part of my body is tingling and I can't think of anything else but the fact that he is penetrating me, or kissing me, or touching me, and im crying and moaning and having an orgasm every 5 to 10 seconds. Then when I look at things that people that into bdsm, I think wow, why all of this stuff? Someone please explain to me why sex is not enough for some people.