We have been married for almost 5 yrs, with 2 daughters... when we first had gotten married like a month later if that, he was cheating on me with my sister for 8 months, I had forgiven him when I found out becuase I was preg. than a 2yrs later he cheated again with a different fem..well after that I left him like 4 times and cheated twice. and he is aware of it.. he is abusive in all forms... physical,emotional,mental...also very controling, demading, and plays mind games.. he is also secretive. locks cell phone. has it on vibrate when its on him, goes out every other weekend til 7 am, to the after bar parties, and ect.. we dont commincate, atleast I am scared to because he always insults me, yells, and turns to him hitting me, ect... He has lately been calling me every name in the book becuase of me cheating a year ago when we were seperated.. and telling me he wants a new girl, divorce, ect.. im a whore...and what not.. but we both have done wrong, i dont want a divorce.......