Runningoutoftime
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wedding appointments? I am going to meet my future mother in law soon in my fiance's hometown. We are getting married in his hometown and it is rather far from where we live now (by far, I mean overseas), so this is the only time we will be going before the wedding. Therefore, we are planning to have our wedding appointments (meet with florist, photographer, ect) to get everything in order. The problem is, my future mother in law (whom I have never met before, or even spoken on the phone with), has gone into full planning mode, picking a location, florist, caterer, photographer.... I am sure many of her ideas are fine, and I am happy to meet with the people she has "chosen," but my fiance and I feel that this is a time for us to plan OUR OWN wedding, ALONE. How can I tell her that she is not allowed to come to our wedding appointments? The large majority (if not all) of the people she has "chosen" are her friends, so I have no idea how to set boundaries without coming off as a total bitch....? I don't want to ruin a brand new relationship with her, but I also believe that if boundaries aren't set now, they never will be.
I think I may have been unclear: a woman I have never met has attempted to plan my entire wedding without my consent. This is completely unacceptable. Additionally, she is not paying for the wedding she has tried to heist away from us. Therefore, in order to take back our wedding, my fiance and I must find a polite way to tell her that we are going to our wedding appointments by ourselves.
I think I may have been unclear: a woman I have never met has attempted to plan my entire wedding without my consent. This is completely unacceptable. Additionally, she is not paying for the wedding she has tried to heist away from us. Therefore, in order to take back our wedding, my fiance and I must find a polite way to tell her that we are going to our wedding appointments by ourselves.