why am I the one who hurts? Y does it hurt even when i kicked my bf out of my house? He's 42, doesn't have a job,hasn't had a job in 4 years, still lives at home with his mother, behind $50,000 in school loans, the IRS is after him now, I am just tired of him and have been pissed off since I found out he cheated on me about 2 years ago, with his ex gf. I don't get y i feel like i did something wrong all the time. We recently went out, he had too much to drink, and I didn't want him getting another DWI or crashing my car, i kept telling him to stop the car, finally he did and he started walking home (but I tried to get him back into car) on highway in middle of night. I went back to pick him up, kept looking for him. Finally picked him up, took him home, then he left to go back to his mums house. Y do I feel bad and hurt?