for first time why did he say this? Okay we been together for 3 years now and he has been wanting to do this i said we could but i just was afraid and it didn't happen tell last night i said he could but he wasn't lubricated and when he did it, it hurt and he knows it hurt but he finished and then he told me that he wasn't there to hurt me and that are relationship shouldn't be built on that and he said he wouldn't do it again but for me i know that it was what he wanted and it probably felt really good to him as it did for me but now what should i say ? i want him to feel good and sexually pleased . i didn't say anything to him just went to sleep but now what can i say to him to let him no that "yeah" it hurt but it doesn't mean that was the first and last time it could happen for him how or what can i say to him cause he probably is thinking that it won't happen for him again and i want to please him what should i tell him?