feeling torn between two people?

i have a problem, can you fall for two people at the same time. i am married with two great kids. i know that in the beginning my hubby cheated on me. i love him very much but part of me feels that i love him but not in love, he works away and when he comes home all he seems to do is criticise me and my daughter, i feel as though we argue more than have a laugh now. i try and talk to him about how i feel and have gave him ultimatums but nothing seems to work. i have a male Friend that cares a lot about me, i can chat with him very easy, the other night we shared a kiss but now im really confused over what i feel or to do can someone please help