Am I bisexual? How can stop?

ver_jen

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Bi-sexual is just a label. Don't think of it like that. If you really are bisexual you can decide to only date guys. Consider yourself lucky. For people who are homosexual, they don't have that option.

You are also lucky that you have urges for the opposite sex because most religions consider acting on the urges toward the same sex, to be worse than actually having them. For homosexuals, they have no desire for the opposite sex at all and will never have feelings in that direction.


Just so that you are aware, there is an alternate explanation to the Bible passages that seem to condemn homosexuality. First of all, the Bible never actually had the word homosexual in it because the Greek and Hebrew languages (the original languages of the Bible) didn't have a word for homosexual. One time the word was translated wrong. It was suppose to mean Catamite which was a young boy who had sex with a man in a prostitute like setting. (This is pedophilia and NOT homosexuality)

The other times that it was mentioned has to be explained by the culture that the letters were written to. Back then, the homosexuality we know today did not exist. (Two people who want to have a loving and consensual relationship in a monogamous setting) When Paul saw men having sex with men, it WAS unnatural at that time. It also was mostly done out of lust and not out of love. There were also pagan fertility gods that were worshiped at that time and the way they worshiped was to have sex with anyone and everyone in front of the statues of the fertility goddess. Paul saw this and wanted to warn those in his care not to do these things. ( The pagans thought it would provide a good harvest of their fields to do this ritual, which might have been an incentive for Christians to do it)

It is also important to note that homosexual behavior was never mentioned in the 10 commandments, by the Prophets, or even by Jesus himself.
 
I am a 16 year old female and I have a big crush on this guy and I'd love to date him. But the girl who sits next to me, I imagine kissing her but not as far as having sex. She isn't pretty or anything. I think I might have a -little- crush on her. Am I bisexual? The only thing i know about her, is her name.

I don't want to be bisexual because my mom and our whole family is against that.
 
Don't stop, keep moving. If you like women, so be it. You only get one life on this planet, so make as many people happy as you can. Including yourself. It would be a problem if you wanted to hurt this girl, but you want to love her... no one will stop you as long as you mean it. Good luck, and don't ignore your instincts.
 
well no that just means your curious, either its a phase and youll grow out of it or your bi......

not much to do but sit back and see how it all plays out
 
It's okay to be bi...if u really think u are...i understand that your family has different views on this subject and probably part of u doesn't want to disappoint them...or have them possibly disown u..it's hard being 16..but u have to be happy with u and nobody else...it really boils down to..u making a choice
 
Just let it be.
That's the best advice I can give you.
Don't worry about it.
-Sam
 
If you are bisexual, then that's it. You can't NOT be bisexual, because that is just part of who you are.
Though despite the fact that you are attracted to both sexes, you could choose to exclusively date men. That way, your parents would never know, and you would still be happy. That's my suggestion.
Still, it seems a shame to me that you feel that you have to keep something like this a secret from your family. But that's just me.
 
If you are bisexual, then that's it. You can't NOT be bisexual, because that is just part of who you are.
Though despite the fact that you are attracted to both sexes, you could choose to exclusively date men. That way, your parents would never know, and you would still be happy. That's my suggestion.
Still, it seems a shame to me that you feel that you have to keep something like this a secret from your family. But that's just me.
 
If you are bisexual, then that's it. You can't NOT be bisexual, because that is just part of who you are.
Though despite the fact that you are attracted to both sexes, you could choose to exclusively date men. That way, your parents would never know, and you would still be happy. That's my suggestion.
Still, it seems a shame to me that you feel that you have to keep something like this a secret from your family. But that's just me.
 
Just let it be.
That's the best advice I can give you.
Don't worry about it.
-Sam
 
your not technically bi sexual if you just think about this girl kissing her. but if you think about her a lot and want to be with her. well that isn't true. maybe you just are drawn to her. i'm sorry, lol. truthfully i dont feel the need to be labeling i like who ever i like but i know i like girls only

and i understand with the i dont want to be bi because my parents and everyone is against it. the only people in my family know is my mom my sister my 1 cousin and my bestfriend and her mom. i couldnt dare even tell my father. he would kill me. he hates gays, he makes fun of them. =/ but ah well you just gotta live through it. but i'm 15 turning 16 soon. so i know where you are. but no your not bisexual unless you feel like kissing other girls.
 
First off it is your choice to be bisexual or not...the only way to find out is to try it...life is short...u may come to find that u love it... theres nothing wrong being bisexual..anyway it could just be a thought... and not mean anything...but than again it could..its up to you to decide
 
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