A friend of mine is going through a hard time realizing or accepting her...

[takaminegirl]

I could really relate a lot especially to the last paragraph you wrote. I think if you really are a lesbian and force yourself to be with a guy, this will push you further in knowing what you want. The first step is always denial, but I find the more you deny the more stronger the feelings are that you try to hide. Its really self-discovery, trial and error. You will just have to let your friend figure things out on her own, like I am doing right now. Its nice that she has a friend like you to support her. Happiness is key.

[psycho247_2000]

you were right by telling her not to go by any names. you need to be doing is what you are already doing. try to remind her that she shouldn't worried about what is going on. that it's going to take time. that she needs to embrace the feelings that she is going through. people have crushes on people, but they my never connect. i know that story all to well. she gonna met someone that she connects with on the level that she is looking for. whether it be male, female, or whatever she finds herself attracted to. it gonna time some time. she needs to work on herself. get herself to that point we she can feel good about herself, and remember she is not going to be able to do it by herself. she gonna needs her friends around her to help her through it.