If you didn't get along with your mother-in-law, do you spend the holiday

[gospel_singing_pooh]

with her and your hubby or alone? To make a long story short, I don't get along with my mother in law. I have tried numerous time to be cordial and to try and build a sucessful relationship but it doesn't work! My husband doesn't see the problems or issues, he doesn't address her or anything. This is why I'm not going to her home for Thanksgiving! Now, I'm spending Thanksgiving alone while he goes to his parents home. Am I right? Or should I go and be unhappy and upset to be with my husband?

[wash]

You and your husband should really have a united front and spend the holidays together... whether you both stay home or go to his mom's. To separate for the holidays is toxic... You and he are considered family before anyone else.

[free_angel]

Hell I wouldn't go either. I don't need or want that bullshit in my life from anyone.

[CYNTHIA]

if you don't go, your husband will be in an awkward situation sitting at his families table. I think you should go because they still are your husbands family and he wants to go. I would still be cordial and whatever your mother in law says, i'd just let it go in one ear and out the other. It's just one dinner, then you're free!

Just know that if you do go along with your husband, he'll appreciate your decision and thank you for it.