My wife masturbates while I am sleeping?

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You guys are "PENDEJOS!!!" Lol. Your wives are probably cheating on all you guys and/or fantasizing about some other dudes! Negative replies only mean, the truth hurts! But seriously, if we men do it, so can them. On a serious note, I'm going to be honest, if my wife is masturbating while I sleep, I don't think that's a good sign. Why masturbate when you have a perfect sex tool and the man you love right next to you? Now if you enjoy watching each other masturbate, then go right ahead and enjoy, but doing it secretly behind your back.....I don't know? That doesn't look or sound good, at all.

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Omg!! How old is ur wife/GF?? I'm a lady and I totally do this too...ok most guys don't know how to satisfy a woman's clit!! Rub it, and suck it, and lick and kiss it!! Oh and the nipples, if you don't do much but only get it in, then she is in desperate need of foreplay!! Don't give it to her the way she wants it, then she'll fantasize about it while she plays with her clit, it makes for the best orgasim she can't get from u...so when u lay there pretending to sleep while she tries to get off...I suggested you roll over, slide your hand softly over her hip then Down to her hotspot and take over momentarily, then give her nipples a nice hello with ur fingers, then slip under the covers and devour that beam till her juices flow, then enter her and fill her up with your hot stuff

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oh my!!!! so crazy, i get angry she hides it. one time i turned and place my foot between her she then pushed my foot away and moved her hand quickly. then pretended to sleep. she claims that she don't like sex and that my dick is really big. i think she likes women! im like (in my mind) just lemme fuck you you don't have to masturbate when we are sleeping together!! i masturbate when i'm home alone. so i understand masturbation but its crazy.

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i found this thread because i have had suspisions about the same thing. I still no nothing definate but I will give some background...and you guys can voice your opinion.

First, I really dont care if she is/does, whatever. Our sex life is fine and for whatever reason she needs/wants to "play", she is more than welcome to. My only issue is not being honest about it. Additionally, for the sceptic's, this suspecion was not initiated by porn or reading about it elsewhere. I never would have dreamed that if she did (play), it would be at night, while i lay next to her asleep....

I to awoke one night and could swear she was playing with herself. No noticable movement, but her breathing was heavy and her shy was laying with her knee's up...her legs were not wide spread...but wide enuf. Regardless....no one sleeps like that! As soon as she suspected I was no longer asleep, she softly called my name (as if to check if I was awake). I just layed still and I no longer noticed anything unusual. After that night, I often tried to pretend to fall asleep (fake snoring and all). She once even told me that she knew I wasn't asleep and ask why I was pretending....I of course denied not truely being asleep. Anyway...I confronted her and she strongly deny's doing any such thing...and says she never does and has no desire to. I call B.S. On many (many) nights I have awoken and suspected her playing (btw...i have to wonder what wakes me...I never hear or feel anything after I'm awake enough to know...but something woke me up!). Anyway, one night after I lay there and try to listen for even the slightest bit of evidence to confirm my suspecions, I felt that she had now drifted off to sleep (probably after her laying there waiting for confirmation that I was asleep.), she lay there, slightly on her side, one leg straight, and the other leg bent (but not up in the air...hard to describe...but there was access to her private area.). She was turned slightly toward me so I decided to try and investigate I took my phone and turned on the video recorder and very very slowly slid the phone under the sheets, hoping that i could see if there was anything going on under there. To my surprise, what I found when i watched the video only left more to question...but led me to want to know (even more) for certain. First, her hand was laying on her pubic mound...not in her panties or anything...but in an area like she was waiting for her moment to continue (or begin). Secondly, there was a noticible wet spot on her panties!!!! So, what's a guy to do...I slowly, slid my hand under the covers, trying so hard not to move any part of my body (or the sheets) that wasn't necessary in order to get my hand over her panties. I moved so slowly, it probably took 5-10 minutes to navigate through the sheets and position my hand over her panties. I know you guys will say this is all a bunch of bs, but i swear its the truth. Once I found her panties, with the slightest touch, I very very slowly ran my finger along the seam of her panties until I was "in position". Once there, I very very slowly, started sliding my finger under her panties. And OMG!! she was soaked!!! I couldn't believe it! I was soo turned on, i started rubbing her and quickly woke her up. She got really mad!! The next day I confronted her about why she would be soo extremely wet in the middle of the night and her answer was she just get's that was some times. Whatever.

Since then, I have kinda let it go. Felt like my suspensions were confirmed and just let her do her thing (whatever that is). But lately, it's been eating at me as to why she simply wont be honest with me. I know some things are private...but we have been married for 15 years and (I thought) that there were absolutely no secrets between us.

Lastly, for you skeptics...I have a very close (girl) friend that I have known since birth...there is nothing sexual between us but we tell each other everything...i mean everything. When I approaced her with this, she said.....

she does the very same thing maybe 1 or 2 times a month....sometimes she wakes up horny, and other times she just wants release without sex. She said often times its a convenience thing....she is tired, wanting release but too tired for sex. She takes care of it in 2-3 minutes where sex with her husband may take an hour or more. Also, for sex she said she feels like she needs to be clean, freshly shaven, etc....basically a lot of preperation...where she can take care of her needs in a few minutes without any preperation.

She also told me my wife will not admit it because (A) its private to her (B) she is embarrassed (C) she feels like I will be hurt that she does it without me. But my friend says, that I am THE ONLY person she has ever told and if confronted she would deny it till her death!

I would suspect that there are a lot of women doing the same thing...there are only two women in my life (other than my mom) and both of them seem to be doing it!

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My ex used to do it, especially drunk. She came in one night drunk and shook me and said I'm turned on. I pretended to be asleep and she literally said out loud 'ah well'. She then went straight down south and rubbed really hard for about 30 seconds and came in her knickers. I then rolled over and kissed her so she knew I was actually awake. I'm totally cool with it, she used to masturbate when I was out with friends or was at work and text me about it. Caught her one time in the bath too which was hot.

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My wife started the same three years ago and got progressively worse to the point that it became an all night affair that seem to end at sunrise, 7 days a week. She has always denied it, and in fact would become infuriated to the point of accusing me of some sick pervert. This all changed one early morning late last year, when i noticed that something was different. Rather than the usual bed moving, her moaning......it was quiet; too quiet. My wife had stopped breathing and lay lifeless beside me. I was successfull in reanimating her, 911, intensive care, etc...the whole nine yards. Took us a year to finally figure out the cause of all of the aforementioned, oxygen deprivation to the brain kept her in a state between sleep and wakefulness and one of the symptoms that can manifest itself is unconsciencously masturbating oneself (sort of sleep walking). After years of sleep deprivation, it had taken it's toll.

HERE's where you have to pay attention......in hindsight what i often refered to as her soft kindda cute snore, was replaced by heavy breathing and moaning of her intensely masturbating herself. Beit that she is petite and physically fit who would suspect your classic airway obstruction (ie the snoring) as this is perceived to be a problem of the beer guzzling overweight husbands. It goes against common thinking, even amongst most health professionals. Did I mention both my wife and I are health professionals, physician clinician researchers?

Although it may read as if my wife went right to an extreme of intensely masturbating herself every night, every day of the week; in reality it was moreso subtle and progressive. If logic tells you that your wife's gotta be losing sleep, or that you are losing sleep over your wife's nocturnal behaviour........seek professional medical help from a sleep specialist.

That being said, I surely wouldn't mind and in fact would endorse her masturbating every now and then, just not every night.

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I have some extreme allergies so last night I popped a couple antihistamines and was out like a light. I woke up an hour after taking them to the sounds of my girlfriend masturbating and at first I was a bit turned on by it was quickly sickened at the thought that she didn't respect me enough to take care of her sexual needs in bathroom. Once she had an orgasm I told her she was sick and slept in the spare bedroom.

I asked her about it this morning and she said she knew I was awake but didnt want to stop. I told her that if she were to ever catch me masturbating there is no way I could finish and it would be a long time before I could look her in the eye without feeling guilt or shame. She said she was embarrassed but whats past is past and there wasnt anything she could do about it.

Were both in our early 50's and Im by far a prude but I am so upset by her lack of respect in my mind this relationship is over. If she wants to jack off she can do it with someone else laying next to her I'll be damned if Im going to let someone disrespect me like that.

For those whose spouse feels the need to masturbate while their asleep next to them ask them if they could keep masturbating if someone were to walk in on them in the middle of the day and catch them in the act?? If they have any dignity or self respect chances are they would say no for obvious reasons. Masturbating is a very private matter and while everyone does it theres very few that will admit to it and even fewer want to get caught doing it.

my ex husband would do the same thing...its disgusting
go to the bathroom.
maybe she wants you to wake up and touch her, or maybe shes just sick in the head. who does that laying next to someone while their sleeping. its like your dog that shits in your shoe then watches while you put it on...some weird mind shit.

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I reckon there is a good chance your wife is doing this in her sleep, especially that she is at it all night. My wife has tried many times to masturbate with her fingers but can't cum unless i'm there helping- suking her tits, rubbing her bum hole or even wanking. My wife has found a love for the rampant rabbit. she can cum on the rabbit in less than a minute!! many times I have woken up to her moaning beside me but it doesnt bother me because she is soo dam hot its scary.

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MEN, love your ladies. WOMEN, respect your men.

These simple principals will go a long, long way to a satisfying sexual relationship.

Masturbating is not right or wrong, it's just another tool in the bag. However, it can be a sign of an unhealthy relationship if one partner is hiding it. If so, ask yourself, have I been loving my wife? Have I been respecting my husband? Ladies, if you don't feel loved, show respect towards your man and see what happens. Men, if you don't feel respected, love your ladies and see what happens. May not be overnight, but it works.

BE HONEST. In my opinion, nothing in the marriage bed is taboo if both partners are in agreement. If she wants to masturbate, support her; if he does, support him. It can be as satisfying as sex if you support one another. If you think it's gross, then you just have a negative emotion associated with it. Be open, talk about it together. Turn it from a selfish act into a shared expression of your love for each other. Sometimes my wife tells me she WANTS me to masturbate if she knows I haven't had an orgasm in a while and she doesn't have time to screw. My wife also regularly give me hand jobs in the morning when she's not mentally into having sex, but she wants me to have that release. If I don't, she knows that I'm more tempted to think about other babes out there.

BE GIVING. Men, give love and affection to your ladies, regularly, and you'll be shocked that you can turn Frankenstein into the woman you hoped for when you got married. Don't push her and TELL her what she needs to be, love her and watch her morph into that person. Ladies, try this book out - The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands, Laura Schlessinger. It did wonders for my wife and I. Don't let your pride rob you of the great potential that your relationship can be.

SEX IS NOT LOVE. Love is love. Kindness is love. I don't care what the zillions of women's libbers say, women have a constitution that wants to be nurtured, cherished and loved. In that environment, they blossom into a story-book wife. LADIES, men need respect. Let him lead, tell him you appreciate him, don't constantly challenge him. In that environment, he will, in time, naturally cover you with love. Don't let your pride rob you of the great potential that your relationship can be.

PRIDE WILL KILL YOU, AND DIVORCE YOU. Not the kind of pride of a job well done. Rather, the pride that makes you need to be right all the time. That's ridiculous, nobody's right all the time. When you're wrong, admit it. I promise you that your partner will love you SO MUCH MORE when you admit when you're in the wrong.

IF YOU ARE OFFENDED with the above, it's because your pride won't let you admit that you don't know anything about how relationships work. So, you can keep doing what you're doing and getting what you're getting (how's that been working for ya), or humble yourself and start loving your wife. I promise, it will be a life changer. It's taken me 22 years of marriage to get where I am, but I wouldn't trade what we have for anything.

SORRY this post isn't more erotic, but there's plenty of that in here, and it's fun to read. I just thought that some realism might help somebody.

- just some dude

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this has been bothering me for the last 12 years. I didnt know she did it until she woke me one night when she was using my hand to rub herself. It really bothers me though, she does it when im asleep, when im not around, when she goes to sleep by herself. Only problem is our sex life is shit! always the same thing, i rub her till she cums, then its missionary for 10mins tops (im not allowed to go longer cause shes cum and has had enough) so sex is over in 20mins. However she can run and exercise for 90mins? what the hell is up with that. I show her affection, i listen to her, i hug her all the time, help her around the house, have renovated the house but no change and im just about ready to leave.

She doesnt understand what its like to be rejected like she rejects me. She goes to sleep, i leave my phone in the room which has an app so it acts like a camera to my tablet - ive heard her masturbate after telling me she is too tired. and recently have noticed the history on her tablet has been deleted quite frequently. I just want to have passionate sex with her but shes not into it, im sooo sick of "pity fucks". Ive been offered sex from single woman and turned it down. Feels amazing when a woman really wants you for sex - havent had that feeling for years. Next time i wont be saying no.

No man should have to feel bad for wanting his life partner to notice him for something other than an errand boy or a builder.