Ok well I'm bisexual and I have been dating a lesbian, we've been going out for about 3 months now and I've been realizing that she absolutely doesn't do PDA. When I asked her why she explained that she's scared of harassment. She's very obviously gay though, so people already know, but she practically never holds my hand or even touches me when we're in public at all. This bothers me on some level because I believe in being open and proud and also showing that my girlfriend is my girlfriend and important to me, not just one of my friends. She literally shows more affection to them than to me in public.
Now I'm not asking her to make out with me in public or anything but a hand over the shoulder or waist or just anything to show she's my girlfriend would be nice. It feels like she's ashamed to be gay.
I don't know what to do about this, should I just respect her wishes and lay off the hand holding or do I talk to her about it and explain that you can't go through life scared?
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