My 3 year old daughter has been complaining that her butt hurts. Could she...

[LegacyRed]

...have been molested? My daugher is 3 years old. My boyfriend is not her biological father, but he has been with me since before she was born & he loves her like his own & she is very attached to him. She just recently started getting unsupervised visits with her biological father about 8 months ago & he started getting her overnight & weekends about 6 months ago. For about the last 6 months my 3 year old daughter has been humping and she still humps a lot. Now she is complaining that her butt hurts & when I asked her if anyone has touched her butt she said yes (my boyfriend) and I asked did he stick something in your butt and she said yes his finger. I know my boyfriend loves my baby very much & I can't imagine him even doing that, but I think maybe it is her biological father that may have touched her. She does not like going with him & the last time she had to leave with him she started screaming & crying & ran in the bathroom to hide behind the door. Do you think my 3 year daughter could really be being molested and by who? She does not act afraid of my boyfriend & as I said she is very very attached to him!

[Sam]

This is serious. As a mom you should take control. To isolate the problem, try this...
For a few weeks, take 1 of the men out of the picture. See if your daughter's suspicious behavior continues. If yes, you know what to do. If not, investigate further. For the time being, do not trust any of them.
I hope this helps. good luck.

Sam

[Auburn]

I wouldn't date someone that sticks his fingers up little girls butts.

[Unregistered]

I totally agree, why would you date a man that sticks his finger up your daughters butt? This is a question of do you love your little girl or your boyfriend more. . .

[Mommietobe]

If you think she has been molested you shouldnt sit there waiting for people to tell you what to do, take her to the doctor to be checked, and go report it to the police so they can investigate, if you wait til the problem solves it self it will just be too late..

[Alicia]

why are you even questioning this go to the police department and have them deal with it dump you bf for now till you figure out what is going on cause you are tramitizing her more if in fact he was and hes still around. and if there is a possiblilty of him doing this you are sick for still being with him any man that was doing nothing would understand why they need to seperate for a while and if he doesnt then there is your answer. she told you who was doing it let the police decide which one is doing it and keep both away from her till you find out thats what any mother in their right mind would do they wouldnt be asking this question.

i have two kids and you better believe if my kids ever said anyone did that i would be beating some a** and getting some answers not asking could this be true. protect your kid first worry about your relationship last and get her safe or give her to someone who will keep her safe if you wont.

[MissATK]

I don't believe this at all, troll.

It's idiots like you that make it hard for those who really do go through this.

Be careful, one day this could be true for you, and no one will believe a word you say.

[Firefall]

Well, I think you're right, she may have been touched by one of them. You should talk to a professional like a psychiatrist or doctor to try to figure out exactly who because it looks like from what you said it could be either of them. I don't know why she would lie about who touched her, so it may very well have been your boyfriend because sometimes people who have been sexually abused can start to sympathize and become attached to their abuser. That could be the case with your boyfriend, maybe that is why she likes him so much and maybe the reaso. She doesn't want to go to her father is because she'd simply miss the two of you. It could just as well be her father too. That would explain why she doesn't want to go to him because what I explained early about a victim becoming sympathetic of their attacker does not always happen. It could also have been her father who threatened her and told her that he'd so something else to her if she told on him and to say that it was your boyfriend. So as I said before, it's not easy to tell who, but I believe she was abused. When you go see the psychiatrist or doctor you can bring her with you, but I'd you plan on prosecuting the molester, I would think it through. I'd indeed she was molested, she will have to say that in front of a court and provide evidence. Sometimes that is very hard for a child, especially one that's 3 and doesn't even understand the horrible thing that may have happened to her. This is what I recommend, like I said, talk to a specialist, then keep her away from her father and if it makes you feel better you can keep her away from your boyfriend as well by sending her to live with your mother or another trusted adult. Good luck with everything, I hope you can sort this out!

[Unregistered]

you better see a doctor, report to child protection, they may advise you to go to the police.