My wife is cold, but my kids are young. Should I have an affair or get divorced?

[a c]

I've been married 10 years, and have 3 kids. My wife is not interested in intimacy. She says "I'm not in the mood. This atmosphere is wrong. Let's go on vacation, and my libido will improve."We've got little kids. The kids she so desperately wanted.We've been to two marraige counselors who both tell her "You need to be intimiate with your husband."I'm thinking of leaving. But i'm worried about the impact on the little kids. I really want them to have a stable upbringing.I really feel my wife married me to be a mother. Once she achieved that goal, she lost interest in me.(I'm 6'0, 180, never been unemployed, have friends, smart, and not a loser).

[a bush family member]

talk to her

[??????????]

divorce her butt

[ababy]

GET A DIVORCE. (i dont believe in getting a divorce but most people do).How would you like your children to know that their dad cheated on their mom? If she finds out she certainly will tell them when they are older. If you really need to get a divorce then its best to do it now because the kids are young and it wont affect them because they dont know whats going on. Your job would be explaining it to them when they are older.

[??????????]

Yes think about the kids.

[A A]

so loose interest in her looser ... GET A LIFE ...but don't forget your kids ....

[A concerned citizen]

just f*** the bitc*..give her some aphrodisiacs or viagra n all..turn her on

[anonnimouse]

You shouldn't have an affair. You should try and engage her more, and tell her how you feel. If she wants to go on a vacation, maybe take her one? Ask her while she feels like she doesn't want to be intimate? Make an honest try before you head for divorce. You said you've been to marriage counselors, and that shows that you care and are willing to try. Talk to her about what turns her on, and maybe you can help her get into the mood. Good luck and best wishes!

[a g]

Have you tried listening to her? maybe you should go on vacation or whatever else she says that will help. chances are she knows how she feels better than you do. i know it may be hard to get away with the kids and all, but do whatever you can before you give up. i hate to see a marriage end over something like that, if you get along well, there's no reason to give up yet. but if you tried everything she said and everything you can think of then i don't know what esle to tell ya

[A Hopeful Dreamer]

An affair would certainly hurt your wife and your kids, not to mention a negative impact on your life. If you are dissatisfied with your marriage, see if your wife would be willing to seek marriage counseling with you. For your marriage to work, both of you may need to work hard at it... I wish you all the best...Peace...