Feel like I'm being smothered, what to do?

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My current BF lives with me and there is some days I just want my space. How do I make him understand that it is not personal it's just me? We seem to be together 24/7 and he has said he has a seperation issue. I think we all need our private time, but he thinks that I should have plenty of time for myself if I don't go with him on a 15 minute trip to the store. What should I do we have a great relationship except for the clinginess, and I just like to have a day or so by my self, is that so wrong?
 
tell him that u really like him but sometimes you just want to be alone. tell him you like silence and peace and he'll let u be more often
 
Sorry, but I think you're going to have to dump him if he can't give you some space.
 
Watch out. This could be a control issue. Does he try to keep you from your friends and family? If so, that is a red flag.
 
no, every1 needs "me" time.just rent a motel for a day, treat yourself to a spa,get your hair,nails done.. & party with your chickies.
 
Not wrong at all.Sounds like he does have separation issues...I had a dog with that once. A real pain cause I could never leave her alone...Your smothered feeling will get worse over time if you don't work this out. Maybe you could agree on a day a week where you did something apart (work or school doesn't count). If he can't agree to this it does not bode well for your future together.
 
There's nothing wrong with having a day by yourself. What's preventing you from leaving the house and spending a day by yourself? You're an adult.
 
No its not too much to ask for, and that may help him get out of his co-dependency situation or lack of trust. You should know what I mean if you are in this situation.
 
Tell him you need a bit of breathing space and that everyone deserves a little me time, and that doesn't mean if he doesn't see you for like an hour that theres your alone time. Even though your in a relationship with him don't spend every moment with him, it'll get irritating very quickly, give each other some space, but be honest with him. Nobody likes it when a person is wishy-washy
 
no-tell him to get a hobby like taking long bike rides or fishing or find some friends. everyone needs space. if i lived with my girlfriend i would want to stay away from her most of the time.
 
no thats not wrong evey girl needs her space i mean to be wit a guy 24/7 im not saying its bad its just that everygurl needs a gurl time just like a guy needs there guy time with their guys as long as yall have trust in each other there shouldnt be a problem because trust play a big part in a role on a relationship
 
I completly understand. I have the same issue. We all need space and he just needs to understand. Just tell him you want to have your own time and just let him know that. Just be honest really. It's also a good idea to spend time with your girl friends too so you will have girly time. He shouldn't be offended but just let him know that.
 
I dont think you are wrong at all for needing your space. everybody needs it from time to time. He really needs to realize that you dont feel right being with him all day having no privacy. Tell him that you love and you want to be with him but not 24/7 sometimes you want to spend time alone. Have you tried leaving the house on your own?
 
no it isnt wrong at all ur right we all do need our space and women r often more confident about being alone than men, men r often very insecure, and remember u have 2 b ok with ur own company before u can expect any one else 2 enjoy ur company, time alone helps us gain mental strength, try encouraging him 2 also start enjoying some time 2 himself and doing some thing he enjoys doing that u dont!!!mayb watching football or some other male thing and when he sees how much he enjoys it he will start looking for ward 2 time 2 hgim self also
 
You didn't say how old you were, but I'm assuming your at least college aged if your living together. I think you need to talk to him about his clingyness and you need to let him know exactly how you feel. Sometimes it good just to tell them how you feel. If you keep it to yourself it will wear a hole in your relationship.
 
I think next time you go to the store you should go to the mall and window shop for a couple of hours. There is nothing wrong with you having a little "my time". Some guys are so jealous if you are out of their sight for too long right away you must be having an affair. Explain the importance of this and maybe he will agree. Make a certain night or day a day to have your space. Remind him that " absence makes the heart grow fonder " . Good Luck
 
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