how dealing with friends (a couple) who constant arguing?

[saegiie]

my friends this couple who just got married 2 months ago are arguing on a daily basis, everyday there is something happening, i suspect the wife has borderline personality disorder, she constant creats chaos and her poor husband now become pretty angry person as well, he was a nice and calm guy before. They each tried to tell me their side of story and they want me to be on their side. The wife call me many times to pick her up from the house (she doesn't drive) so she can stay away from the busband, how should i deal with these friends, they are nice people when they are not arguing, should i help any of them??

[princess]

NO, they should not be dragging you into their problems. Nobody here is the innocent partu. They are both adults, nobody is being held at gun point. They can/should help themselves. It's pretty obvious for whatever reason they are both drawn to dysfunction. Stay out of it because in the end they will probably think your the bad guy if you try to help. And you can't help someone who won't help themselves. GoodLuck

[luckycharms]

If i were you i would tell them they need to either get counseling or seriously sit down and have a talk. Life too short to be a unhappy couple and argue all the time! Sounds like their missing out on so much. And as for you, i think i would of ripped all my hair out already. I can't stand when i'm in that situation with my friends. Give some advise but if it really starts to bother you just be a good honest friend and tell them they need help & if their good friends as well they will understand what you mean.

[Aaron48]

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