Why ppl greet u how u doing?

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Aaliyah'sMommy

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why when ppl great you they ask how u doing? as if they would actualy sit and listen to u if u wasnt do great and wanted to talk to someone?

(jus something i was thinking about)
 
it's one of the oldest customs known to humanity.

Maybe the method of saying it has changed slightly over time, but people have always greeted oneanother and then asked the other person what is new, how things are, tell me a story, what have you been doing since we last spoke, blah blah.
 
i dont know but i kinda wanna know why now too lol.. i normally say hey whats up when i greet someone
 
it became so used and common like "Hi!" or "Hey!" Most of the time they could care less how you are actually doing.
 
Because it was what we call a NORM it is normal when saying hi to say how are you as it is normal for the person you asked regardless of how much they want to tell you to just say fine!!! Try breaking the norm and see what happens get the reactions from both sides when some one asks you how you are doing really tell them! and when you ask how are you and they just say fine say no seriously I really want to know whats going on with you and watch the reaction because you are breaking the NORM
 
i guess it's just more of a politeness kind of thing. i guess its polite to act like you care about other peoples lives, honestly i never really got traditions like that, im just giveing my opinion.
 
Hi...I'm Aliyah's mommy.
I figure they are just trying to make conversation. Some people are just friendly!
 
I guess it's just a habit. And most of the time, the other person knows what he means by asking "Ho are you doing?"
 
Wendy Williams lol, jkjk, just to be polite i guess, just tell them you are doing great and go about your business, that is what i usually do.
 
It used to be that people legitimately cared how everyone else was doing. Now, people say it to be nice and make you think that they care. It's sad, I know.
 
its polite, i say it all the time at work, sometimes they tell you all about whats bothering them, i don't mind it because its good to get things off your chest sometimes
 
it's just something people in society do, like shake hands. it's habit and considered good manners. though most people say fine, if you said ok or bad, people would probably ask what's wrong. plus, its a good conversation starter. good question, btw.
 
haha this is funny to think about. and most of the time you can catch yourself doing the same thing to people you aren't good friends with. they say "hey how are you?" as they pass because it is social convention. we are socially brought up to say that and we dont even realize it. we say it and yet when we actually get an answer, which we rarely do, we dont want to listen. the response to the "hey how are you?" is "good, and you?" - most of the time we aren't "good". we're either great, wonderful, awful, or alright. we dont say our real feelings either - it's all fake and it's what we have been socially brought up to do. we go through the motions and we dont even realize it - but you are realizing it, so good! yay! it's funny to observe this, because neither party cares or gives/wants to know the real answer.
 
I don't think it is so much that they care as to how you are doing. Most who ask this, only ask because they are trying to give an impression that they are being kind to you. Think of it this way, how would it sound if someone just greeted you with the words, "Hi" and that was it? If you add, "Hi sir/ma'am how are you doing today" then it adds something extra. it causes the person to feel more welcome than just a simple "Hi". The fact is, we as humans seek to feel welcomed even by those we do not know. So adding that little extra makes a difference and it causes one to feel as if they are valued more highly. So its not that the person asking actually cares about the person personally, although there are some who genuinely do, but its about making the person feel more welcome.
 
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