How do I get my husband to do his fair share of the household chores?

[Robinoshawa]

Hire a maid and make him pay for it.
If he won't pay, learn to live with it or leave.

You've tried everything else!

[LaInolvidable]

Try 1. do not buy food so there will be no mess
2. buy a dish washer so he can put the dishes in the diswasher
3. try a maid let it come out of his check
4. do not do his laundry ever
5. Put your foot down, he either does half of the chores or he goes out the door and leave to a hotel for a weekend' You will have a clean place at least for a couple of days. You are not his mother and you are not his house keeper.
6. take all his toys away until he learns to clean

[ladyren]

Since you and he both work, and guys really don't take well to household chores, hire a maid, hon, and end the strife. What ARE you thinking?????????

One every other week, assuming you don't have a mansion, will cost you $120 -$180 a month max.... cheap.

Cry??? Shriek? Scream, pouting????? Are you serious?????????????

Such a little problem... Such a big deal you have made of it.

[PreciousGem]

It is time to bring out the ultimate threat:
Help or I walk.
And if he doesn't then walk.
Don't clean his clothes for him. He can walk around in
smelly clothes. Only cook for yourself. If he wants something
then he will have to fix it himself. Stop talking to him for

as long as his chores remains undone. Only shop for yourself. Get nothing for him. If he wants anything he will have to shop for himself. Keep this up until he either starts
helping or he walks out. If he does walk out then he didn't really care for you. He is the one acting like you two aren't as one. So act separately. Good luck.

[Ruthie]

First of all neither you nor he are children (grounding him? taking his computer away? seriously? are you his mother or his wife??? and crying? ultimatums? BIG no-no's) no wonder nothing you've tried has worked you are not acting like an adult in a partnership you either act like a child or his mother.
At this point you may just have to accept him for who he is unless you are prepared to walk out after only 3 months of marriage. (in which case is quite sad and shows you never should have gotten married in the first place since you can't seem to handle it) Some people are just messy people and if you don't like it just pick up your own messes and keep where you go to most clean. He's his own person and your the one that chose to marry him when you knew he was like this before counseling (ONLY a month???) you've gotta do what you gotta do. Leave or accept it.

[Ruthie]

First of all neither you nor he are children (grounding him? taking his computer away? seriously? are you his mother or his wife??? and crying? ultimatums? BIG no-no's) no wonder nothing you've tried has worked you are not acting like an adult in a partnership you either act like a child or his mother.
At this point you may just have to accept him for who he is unless you are prepared to walk out after only 3 months of marriage. (in which case is quite sad and shows you never should have gotten married in the first place since you can't seem to handle it) Some people are just messy people and if you don't like it just pick up your own messes and keep where you go to most clean. He's his own person and your the one that chose to marry him when you knew he was like this before counseling (ONLY a month???) you've gotta do what you gotta do. Leave or accept it.

[Ruthie]

First of all neither you nor he are children (grounding him? taking his computer away? seriously? are you his mother or his wife??? and crying? ultimatums? BIG no-no's) no wonder nothing you've tried has worked you are not acting like an adult in a partnership you either act like a child or his mother.
At this point you may just have to accept him for who he is unless you are prepared to walk out after only 3 months of marriage. (in which case is quite sad and shows you never should have gotten married in the first place since you can't seem to handle it) Some people are just messy people and if you don't like it just pick up your own messes and keep where you go to most clean. He's his own person and your the one that chose to marry him when you knew he was like this before counseling (ONLY a month???) you've gotta do what you gotta do. Leave or accept it.

[Robinoshawa]

Hire a maid and make him pay for it.
If he won't pay, learn to live with it or leave.
You've tried everything else!

[Ruthie]

First of all neither you nor he are children (grounding him? taking his computer away? seriously? are you his mother or his wife??? and crying? ultimatums? BIG no-no's) no wonder nothing you've tried has worked you are not acting like an adult in a partnership you either act like a child or his mother.
At this point you may just have to accept him for who he is unless you are prepared to walk out after only 3 months of marriage. (in which case is quite sad and shows you never should have gotten married in the first place since you can't seem to handle it) Some people are just messy people and if you don't like it just pick up your own messes and keep where you go to most clean. He's his own person and your the one that chose to marry him when you knew he was like this before counseling (ONLY a month???) you've gotta do what you gotta do. Leave or accept it.

[Ruthie]

First of all neither you nor he are children (grounding him? taking his computer away? seriously? are you his mother or his wife??? and crying? ultimatums? BIG no-no's) no wonder nothing you've tried has worked you are not acting like an adult in a partnership you either act like a child or his mother.
At this point you may just have to accept him for who he is unless you are prepared to walk out after only 3 months of marriage. (in which case is quite sad and shows you never should have gotten married in the first place since you can't seem to handle it) Some people are just messy people and if you don't like it just pick up your own messes and keep where you go to most clean. He's his own person and your the one that chose to marry him when you knew he was like this before counseling (ONLY a month???) you've gotta do what you gotta do. Leave or accept it.