But yet they don't do a damn thing to change how they celebrate or how much they spend and then complain year after year about how depressing the holiday is because they can't afford it due to everyone demanding expensive gifts, etc. If they really want to change, why is it so difficult to take that first step toward whatever it is they want Christmas to be for themselves and their families? Or do they prefer to whine and moan and hope that it'll change by magic?