So, I have a fiancee, and she has a son from a previous marriage. Ok fine....no big deal, i can make it work. Right? Wrong. I knew coming into this relationship that her son was number one, always...fine with me. But i thought that shed atleast make an effort to spend time with me, maybe call a sitter? Well she hasnt. Ok, thats fine with me too. I can spend time with her when he goes to bed...right? Wrong again. He needs her to sleep with him every single night. Either she goes into his room and sleeps in there with him, or they sleep in our bed and i sleep in the basement. When he was 2 it didnt happen that much, so I let it go because, well hey, he was 2. when he turned 3, it started happening pretty mch every night, and i was kinda like...well he's 3, this cant go on forever. But now hes 4. And still, every night, she falls alseep in his bed, or i sleep in the mancave. And im getting pretty sick of it. We havent has sex in more than 2 months. And she gets mad at me that we dont spend any time together...she gets mad that i take one night out of the week to do paperwork for my job, and maybe work late one night. I wish she would open her eyes and realize that, no, its not my fault, its that u havent grown a backbone and put your son to bed, get mean if u have to. But she comes up with the same excuse....ive tried. Of course he isnt gonna be able to goto bed himself after a day, u need to keep at it, but she doesnt want to take the time to do it. So everynight out relationship suffers because she doesnt want to deal with him crying. What do i do? I hate sleeping alone, i hate sleeping without her. And not only does he need her to fall asleep everynight, when he finally falls asleep, its like 11 11:30...every night!!! So even if she didnt fall asleep and she comes into the room with me, its already too late for us to spend time together, its time to go to bed. Its killing our relationship. And here i am, venting online..cuz i dont have the balls to say any of this to her because its about her son. And i feel its not right and not my place to say anything about him because i feel shell always take his side and ill always be wrong. And im afraid itll seem like im complaining about him. But really im just upset we dont spend anytime together. Im upset for getting blamed for it, and im upset that she doesnt open her eyes. I cant stand not having any time with her. What do i do?
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