Me and my wonderful boyfriend live together, with his two kids, one is 11 and sweet girl, and the other is 12, alomost 13 very soon, a boy.
the kids did live with their mother for a little while, but she couldn't handle them and gave them back to us.
she babied them and never made them clean up their rooms or their messes or their dishes or anything. She made all their lunches and got them ready in the morning....They never do anything themselves.
Me and my boyfriend are big on kids being independent....

His daughter, is good, she cleans her rooms, she knows how to work a dishwasher and she almost all the time remembers to clean up after herself.


His son, on the other hand. Is COMPLETLEY dependent. he is going into highschool this year, and can never make his own lunch without whining, always whines that there is never anything to eat, because he doesnt want to actually make something, he would just rather eat 3 instant things! what do i do? He is also a BIG whiner.