by pointing out ? I cant stop myselfy point that out to her and reprimand her. For example, she does things like not flushing, or Being lazy and feigning illness in morining for breakfast or coffee when I have to go to her. I cant help myself pointing this outto her and then I either get my breakfast nor peace of mind. I kick myself for saying things about her, and become unhappy. I cant seaprate from her for reasons of children or orthodox background. Recently I have hired a cook and she doesnt even care to housekeeping supervision. I used to get up early, run, jog etc. but now her laziness has influenced me also and I dont care. I am frustrated. She is a drag on my life. I cant get rid of her, I cant stop judging her, and judging her is making ME unhappy.

We have been married for 21 years and we have two sons. I am further concerned that sons will get influenced by this disharmony