Thread: Mother in law problems (VENTING) AHHH!?

So I'm barely 20 years old, I'm young I married my mexican husband when I was 19 and we are expecting our daughter in a few weeks. The problem is my mother in law is driving me crazy! Everything was fine with the wedding planning and before marriage, but ever since then she always complains to my husband about our relationship and why I won't open up and let her in. It's so frustrating first off the language barrier she speaks good english but she feels like she doesn't speak it well so when me, my husband, and her are together she only speaks spanish and he has to translate, but if me and her are alone she will speak english fine! The second problem is I don't look at her as my mother, me and my mother are best friends and I love my own mommy very much so I feel as if I don't need a second mom. Third problem is our cultures are SO very different in the mexican culture everything is about serving the husband, and taking care of the house, so she would rather spend money on a new broom and for me I would rather buy a cheap broom and go shopping lol. I just hate it how she always makes comments about what we should save our money on, how I should organize my OWN home, she even goes so far as to telling me what I should cook and eat. She always feels as if I need to eat more, and I am a petite girl so I don't eat alot I guess compared to her family so shes always trying to bring me food or try her cooking. I understand shes just trying to help and shes older etc. but I don't feel comfortable with her trying to tell me what to do, I'd much rather take advice from my own mother. She comes over uninvited to try and bring me food and stuff when I'm sick, and constantly offers to clean and help me organize my home, but than tells my husband she wants to help but doesn't want to feel like a maid ughh either help me or don't either way I don't care and I didn't even ask for your help in the first place!?! My question is what can I do to try and not feel like this toward her, I want things to be how they were before we got married and she gave me space and with our daughter on the way I feel like we are going to have problems. Did I mention she has 2 adult sons, no job, and no other daughter in laws lol.

you and my daughter married into this whole different culture alot of of moms give the daughter in laws difficultys because they wanted them to marry a mexican girl you have to talk to her and tell her how you feel and what her place is otherwise she will take over your life and you will have no peace