...upset if? someone else says something bad about your spouse or marriage?

If you, yourself, complain and say bad things or insults or make complaints about your spouse (valid or not valid), do you also get upset if someone else says something insulting about your spouse?

Are you protective of your spouse against others, but critical of them yourself? Or are you ok with others criticizing and saying bad things about yourself just as you do?
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Or are you ok with others criticizing and saying bad things about your spouse just as you do?