to consecrate the whine and bread? My family and I are knew in town and new to our church. We are Episcopalians. The children don't come in to the service until just before communion. My conflict is that I attend church alone with my two children, am trying to sing in the choir. I feel that a 3 year old needs the experience of taking communion with a parent. Because of my being in choir and up in front of everyone, it is a serious problem for her to run back and forth from me to her sister, jump up and down the steps and so forth. She is very active and I am looking for magic words or whatever to just keep her quiet and still while the priest consecrates the elements. We (choir) are the first to take communion, so I can get her back to the nursery or nursery worker immediately thereafter.