You can't help a person who doesn't want help. It sounds like he wants sympathy, not help. When he complains about feeling bad, just briefly remind him he knows what to do to correct the situation, then change the subject. If he survives his first heart attack or stroke, he'll begin to take better care of himself. BTW, why is he 2500 miles away from you, and why are you not with him? And, was he this way before you married him, and if so, why did you marry him? Do you know what an enabler is? Are you one?
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