Thread: Erectile Dysfunction - my boyfriend complains that it's my fault for being "too wet"?

i'm 35 and have slept with 7 men in my life. the 6 i slept with before the current BFalways commented on how 'tight' i was. i also have no problem getting wet; more than most. and usually, well always until now, that would be a turn on for the guy. my current BF doesn't have trouble w/ an erection before insertion, but he seems to lose it or it softens, noticeably, after insertion. and he blames me for being too wet. i don't have the heart to tell him it might just be that he's small (which he is, relatively speaking). and he's lost it on nights when i haven't been so into it and have NOT been so wet. so he finds anything to blame it on...from being tired from work to just being distracted. but way more often it's about ME being too wet, it's about ME not being interesting enough in bed. ok fine, i'll try things - i like to...but is it right for him to claim i'm boring and too wet after like *1 or 2* minutes of missionary style that HE initiates because he loses it?

small is, well, sort of small. i guess thin vs. short. so i can see why the friction might not be there. but i had a guy tell me once i was tighter vaginally than most girls are with anal sex. i am *little*. and as far as he not wanting sex...oh believe me he says he masturbates several times a day. and he initiates - i'm not begging for it. anyway, i guess i have my answer. i've never had this problem; quite the opposite. either i confront him and tell him to stop blaming me or i just end it. this isn't healthy...he doesn't realize he makes me feel like sht when he tries to protect himself like that

I think your boyfriend just isn't that interested in sex. He doesn't want to admit that because it doesn't fit in with our society's false masculine ideal of a man always willing and able to perform sexually, so he's casting around for something to blame it on. You know it's BS, because the 6 guys before him had no problem. Just realize that his sexual needs are less than yours, and wait until he's more ready. You can masturbate on his "off" days.
I did the same thing when I spent the first summer with my lover, 15 years older than me. I was about 22 and ready for sex every day, but his speed was every other day. So on those days I masturbated ... it worked out just fine.

It's his problem. Tell him he doesn't have to live with this. Either try Viagra or try natural solutions--change his diet, basically to include green vegetables and less meat.

Honey, that's his problem and not yours. You said you never had a problem before and now you do? I dont think so.He has a problem holding his junk. Sounds a little selfish to me. My BF can hold it like the night willl go on forever. Just the opposite. its all mental. If your BF cant hold on for a few mintues, he is too desperate to be with you. You must be one hot Mama. He never had anything as good as you before or he is a virgin and hasnt figured it out yet.