justanothergirl

So here's the deal. I'm getting married next June to the love of my life. He has two sisters, one of whom I love and would do anything for, and the other . the "middle child"... causes me nothing but stress!! I feel she's waged a silent competition with me. When I first started dating her brother she was pregnant (at 18) with her first child and her boyfriend of a year. That was three and a half years ago. About a year and a half ago, her brother asked me to marry him and as soon as she found out she had a wedding planned out for her and boyfriend within the week! She always needs the spotlight.. whether baby shower, birth, bridal shower, bachelorhood party, wedding.. and now it seems as though she's running out of ways to get more attention!! I was kind of sad that our engagement was sooo short lived.. b/c obviously I couldn't go planning a wedding when his sister was suddenly having one within months!! So we've set our wedding date for next June, she knows this and suddenly, over the last couple of months she's been trying to get pregnant. Call me crazy, but I feel like she's doing this on purpose. So yesterday my fiance and I find out that yes, she's pregnant..... and not even from her. The girl just turned 22.. and get this, she even went as far as to get fertility pills because she needs to have a second so fast!! Her dad admitted to my fiance that he believes she did this intentionally, because she's so jealous of us, and because she always says stupid things like "i have to have the first boy!!!" since she already had the first girl granddaughter. Why would someone say this?? Does she think her kids will be more special to their grandparents because of this? I just feel like she's always going to be in a competition with us. Eventually her brother and I will have kids, and I can only imagine the stunts she'll pull then. She's the type of person who would ask her mom why her daughter wasn't on the background of the computer.. and if it was because she didn't love her as much as the other grandkids!!!! I know if you don't know the situation you may dismiss this as selfishness on my part, but I can't help but feel as though she did this on purpose. She's the type of person who always needs attention, and she'll go to extreme measures to get what she wants. So tell me ... am I crazy? and what should I do? I don't want to live like this for the rest of our lives! The baby is due about a month before our wedding.. purely coincedence or is it something more?

pmay

She sounds crazy not you, however, its totally up to you how it affects you. Don't let her do this (if she is indeed doing this on purpose). If she runs your life or ruins your wedding its because you allowed her to have that much control over you. Marry this guy and then move hundreds of miles away from the In-Laws, that's what I did.

whitney

I highly doubt she purposely got pregnant just to spoil your wedding day. Both of you need to grow up.