I have several problems. I met my future husband 2 years ago- we both worked for the same training provider. We very quickly got engaged, bought a house and settled down. In the first couple of months of being together he agreed he would look for another job as my boss kept picking on us (as he didn't think we as a couple we should working together). My fiance didn't even try looking for another job seriously- My boss gave me extra responsibilities at work (without the extra pay). I used to drive me and my partner to & home from work (as he has made no effort to pass his test) and everywhere else!- and i was constantly on the go at work..I feel my fiance did nothing to help the situation. I became an emotional wreck and felt so trapped i thought i was going to have a breakdown. I was then hit by a car-had a very lucky escape and then accidentally became pregnant and had to have an abortion because we couldn't afford to keep the baby - I left that job at the start of this year ... my partner still works there... he has made no effort to look for another job unless i nag at him - I feel under immense pressure as all the bills are under my name. I feel he resents me as when I left that job he had to support us while i found another. I don't know what to do
The job he's does is extremely easy and we used to joke that it isn't even a proper job. He has been supposedly applying for the RAF for the last year - his excuse is that he needs to replace all his certificates - (which is likely to cost us £150- £200) but we always need that money to spend on bills - We can put it aside ..but its me that has to organise it and sort it out.. he was unsure either way about the abortion -i made the decision in the end mainly ...but if he had of looked for another job as soon as i fell pregnant i think i would have felt more secure and kept it. He does pay his share of the bills - but we're really struggling and he wont consider even applying for a part time job - or looking for anything else.
All the bills had to be in my name as we both had credit problems from uni -but his were worse than mine - I was without a job for 2 months after the car hitting me and the abortion. But we earn the same now - although he spends a lot on travel to get to work.
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