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Grief is NOT a 'paint-by-numbers emotion. As all the health professionals are FINALLY starting to understand, it's way beyond simple solutions.
Grief is multi-layered; it hits no two people alike. For some, they pass through it in a matter of months; for others; six or more; and for many, it takes YEARS to get through it.
I do not like to use the phrase 'get over it and move on' because that is too belittling, and arrogant in the extreme. Whilst your family loves you, you do not have to justify to them why you feel what you do. Indeed you probably cannot.
Despite what others claim, there is always a part that misses the person who has died, even though they still reside in your heart; it's the physical presence you miss. This can last for many years, but you get 'better' as the months go by; the pain lessens.
Do yourself a favour: let the emotions have a safe release. This is mandatory for your own well-being. They may pop up at odd times - allow that. You are grieving for goodness' sake. It is unhealthy to hold on to it. Yet you must not try to understand logically why you are still in shock, grievous, because that emotion and it's impact does not occur at the level of mind/ego, but much deeper. So there is no real right or wrong about it; only what works and doesn't work for you.
Nevertheless, IF you can allow yourself to shift this emotion relatively well and in good time, that will help the departed soul; it's hard on them, too.
Lastly, if you really need to have something from your doc, please try to make it no worse than a sleeping pill, and go off it as soon as you can. Medication in this instance, masks the pain, does not reveal it. Such hidden emotions come out in other ways.
I hope this helps. Any questions, just ask.
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