I can't stand my girlfriend's mother! We're headed down the road to marriage and I just can't stand the woman. She's never done anything to me, but I have justifiable reasons to dislike her.

1. I'm only slightly more conservative than I am liberal, but I have views from both sides of the table because an extreme of either is silly to me. She's extreme liberal. She attended Black Panther parties and is socialist in her views for example. Because of her stance on things (and she knows mine) we don't see eye to eye on things and disagree quite a bit. My gf and I will decide to do something and it's always, "Well, why don't you do Y instead?" It's beyond giving advice...she knows it will rub me the wrong way.

2. She has yet to cut the umbilical cord from my girlfriend. She throws a fit if we're not at her house at least 3 days out of the week. We're in our mid 20's and she insists that WE, not just her, spend the night there once a weekend and spend all day every Sunday with her. If we don't do these things, she puts my gf on the biggest guilt trip ever. She doesn't ask if we'll come over, it's "When is Mommy's baby coming to see me?" She doesn't ask, just lets it be known that she expects us to spend that much time over there. I'm all about family, but I don't want to spend half my weekend with her family!


I've spoken to my girlfriend about all the problems without coming out and saying, "I don't like your mother." I really don't want it to come to that because I know it will cause a major riff between myself and my gf. What am I to do? Should I just continue to deal with it and say nothing?