Thread: Boyfriend wants a "yes" to future marriage?

I've been dating my boyfriend for 6 months. Lately, he has asked me every day if I'll marry him when I'm done with school in 3 years. He gets really upset when I won't give him an answer. How should I handle this situation?

I've been dating my boyfriend for 6 months. Lately, he has asked me every day if I'll marry him when I'm done with college in 3 years. He gets really upset when I won't give him an answer. How should I handle this situation?

Sounds like he's incredibly needy and wants to lock you into making a decision before you're ready. Not a good quality for a spouse.

school as in high school? if that's the case, look for a new boyfriend. this one is way too pushy... that's the kind of thing stalkers are made of.

school as in high school? or college? either way..i say 6 months is to short of a time to decide if this guy is indeed the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. and i would tell him that. marriage is a HUGE commitment..so i wouldn't suggest saying yes unless this is a relationship that you can see making it through the long haul.

Well, since you refuse to tell him yes, you should tell him to ask you again next Christmas. If you haven't made up you mind by then, tell him to ask you again during Christmas 2010.

Is he not going to school and is afraid that if you get more education than he then you won't want him? Are you afraid that you will want someone with more education?

At some point, you will have to answer his question.

tell the gomer yes until you find someone else to fill the void his strange butt resides in now.

you could tell him that you love him (if you do) and that you aren't planning on going anywhere (if you aren't) - its just that you don't want to make any committments right now besides your committment to school - if he loves you and wants to spend the rest of his life with you, then he will understand. i think that he just wants some reassurance that you are his and only his and that you aren't looking for a replacement for him.