I got a cockatiel a year ago and at the time i was told she was female. So she has a girl name and everything but she has been rubbing her bottom and we were told many different things. we were told she could be masturbating, lonely,laying an egg, have worms, have mites. So as she is a female we were going to get her a male friend that way if it was masturbating she would have that source and if it was lonely she would have a friend. But today we were told she could be male and is rubbing her bottom because its mating season.

When i first got her the lady said a female has spots under the wings and male has stripes. She had spots. But when she lost her baby feathers the spots never came back

Does anyone know how to tell whether she is female or male?

Thanks and sorry that its long
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