The way I see it, a woman does not get to say, "Look, I really do not want to be raped, so can you just fondle me?" The clerk at the grocery store who is being robbed doesn't get to say, "I don't feel like getting a serious injury or dying right now, so instead of shooting me in the chest or head, can you just shoot me in the leg?"

So why do the criminals get to "bargain" and get to have the charges for the crime they committed made to be less than what they actually did?