masturbates, sleeping, wife My wife masturbates while I am sleeping.

[soulshine68]

I posted under the health heading but thought it maybe good to do it under here as well.

It looks like a few Gents are in the same situation as I am. My wife and I have been married for 21 years - we are both just 41. Our sex life has been always hit & miss. I have had many conversations with my wife about her lack of sex drive and what can be done to improve it as 1-2 times a month really doesn't work for me. These conversations are never angry or accusatory on my side but her replies always very angry and very short. We have had issues which have arose that required marriage counseling which came at her request that I gladly went to without resisting. A few of them resulted in the therapist advised her to not be so controlling. 8 -9 years ago I went through an extended dry spell of a month or two and just figured to just roll with it. One evening I woke up to use the bathroom and my wife wasn't in bed...I noticed a glow coming from the living room and went to investigate. I discovered her humping the floor, completely out of control. I interrupted her with a comment something like, "Are ya having fun" with a smile - she was very angry I walked in on this...it could have been embarrassment too...I can't recall. I expressed that I was hurt by this but also asked if I could help with anything, would she like to pick up some toys or whatever...her reply was simply "no". A day or two later I mentioned that I would be open to anything she might be interesting in trying sexually but again they reply was short & angry. Over these last years since then I have consistently asked if she would like to stop by adult stores for toys, clothing, etc - no pressure from me...some things have improved, others have stayed the same. Over the last year or so there have been occasions where I have woke up by what I thought was the bed kinda shaking but blew it off & went back to sleep. The last month or so has been slow again sexually - I mention it again with the same 'ol replies. Monday of this week I was lucky enough to score some lovin'...what a surprise...I didn't even have to ask. At 2AM I was kicked in the leg and laid there wondering WTF as she was going nutty humping her hand. I gave her a few moments and asked if I could help with anything and she quickly rolled over and commented about a leg cramp or something to that effect. I told her I was really OK with what was going on but also a little disappointed that I have to wait for the stars and planets to align in proper order before she would consider anything. Over the last few days I have asked if we could talk about this, again - was there something we could try together, do you want to experiment with anything new, etc, and I get no reply. I continued on with a comment stating I thought it was kinda hot and perhaps I could watch or even take a few pics but again she shot back with an angry reply. I don't think I plan on asking but I am gonna guess this has just been going on over these last few years. At this point I just don't know where to go with this any longer.

s~s

[Unregistered]

I think this is a symptom, not the disease. Your wife is making her feelings clear. She needs a sexual outlet, but not with you. -What kind of a relationship do you have aside from sex?

If the rest of your relationship is also not making you both happy, bite the bullet and MOVE ON. Counselling cures nothing, and just encourages tolerance of bad situations.

Good luck you you both for a happier future.