My boyfriend constantly fondles himself when he is reading. He doesn't know I know this. He often spends weekend mornings reading on the couch, with his hand in his shorts. I happened to look in the window a couple of times, and there he was, slapping or rubbing his penis, while he reads financial magazines, for Pete's sake. He doesn't wear underwear and often wears loose fitting shorts...I think it's for ease of entrance. Sometimes he takes them off and when I walk in the room, I can tell he has a partial erection. He then covers himself up. One day I said, looks like someone wants to play, and his reponse was he was just cooling off his testicles because they get hot. He does not promote any kind of sexual activities, and I am beginning to think he prefers toying with himself. He does this almost every day. It's not something he used to do (that I was aware of). He is in mid 50s. It's not hurting anybody, but I think there is some significance to the sudden surge in activity