Hello. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 4 months, but we have liked/known each other for over a year. I love him with all my heart, and he loves me. So we both think it is time to take it to the next level. Which is sex. Here's the thing. Im scared to. Even when i put tampons in sometimes it hurts, but not always. He has fingered me and it was all i could do to not scream. I had to grab his hand and make him pull out. It doesn't help that he likes to be rough. How can I tell him in a nice way to go slower, and softer, without wrecking the moment? And how do i get over my fear of losing my virginity and it hurting? Its not that im not ready... Bc I am. I love him sooo much, and I want him to be my first. im just scared of the pain.

btw, I know either way it is gonna hurt because he is 9inches. Is there tips that can ease the pain?