So it's Valentine's Day weekend and I'm going to visit my boyfriend who lives out of town. I don't get to see him very often, so I don't want to ruin the weekend by having the aids talk face to face.

I have reason to worry about it because he has told me that his exhusbands previous lover had and died of aids. He didn't say whether or not his ex contracted it or whether it was passed on to him. We have not had full blown sex but have participated in risky behavior. I would love to be with him completely, but cannot obviously till I know.

So I guess the question is...Is it ok to ask him in an e-mail and tell him he can wait till I come to answer? Should I risk ruining the weekend and ask when I arrive? How should I handle this? It has been killing me for weeks!


By the way, this is the first relationship I have been in where I have had to have this talk, so any advise would be grately appreciated.