I've been with my man just over a year. We have never - not even ONCE had sex that I initiated.
We do have sex 2-3 times a week and it's great sex! I have no complaints about that
But if I initiate, he freezes up & says he's tired or just doesn't want to....I've even just wanted to give HIM a BJ - and told him he didn't have to do anything at all for me - and he still said NO.

Sometimes he'll want to talk about it the next day (if he's had a couple beers) and will tell me he feels guilty for telling me NO and make another excuse - he hadn't washed, was really tired - or something similar, but he usually doesn't explain at all & the next day will act like it didn't happen.

I think in a perfect world... we'd have sex every other day and I give him a BJ about once a week
In the 1st 6 months we were having sex about once or twice a day. I expected it to slow down, but I expected to be able to ask for sex if i need it.
There are nights when I can't sleep because I'm so horny!