...always been really painful for me? i'm 22 & hate the gynecologist. Ive seen a man & a women & it really doesn't make a differnece. i am equally uncomfortable with both. i'm a virgin & never done anything sexual ever with anyone. my menstrual periods have always been perfectly normal & i never get cramps. My periods are very light & short. my mom used to make me go once i got my period at 12 & it was horribly painful & always has been. i remeber being so scared before going. i couldn't even sleep & i felt sick to my stomach. the doctor can barely fit the pediatric speculum in me & hurts really bad. i haven't gone since i was 17 but my mom constintly tells me to get pap smear done even though she knows ive never had sex & have had painful experiences. i just don't see a reason to go & torture myself for no reason. even the doctor said its not neccessary especially since i'm a virgin & i have pain during exams.