While I am straight and do not support gay marriage, I DO want gays to feel happy in their lives. The reason I ask my question: my brother is gay, has had a relationship (with quite a few hiccups) with a guy for 15-years, in Calif but chose not to get married while it was legal. That said, he's stridently FOR gay marriage. It's just confusing. Any insight that is not offensive will be appreciated.