Thread: Oh I'm not gay, I just like having sex with men (being the top)?

why is it that some African American(and other races) bisexual men have a problem with being called gay, BUT, don't mind doing what it takes to be gay! and why do they think that if they are not taking it, that they are not the one who is gay? i don't know i am at a loss trying to figure them out. i don't care who is taking it, if you lay with the same sex, you are not straight! I'm a bisexual black male myself, but alot of other bi black males I know are exactly how I described above. This also is not just black men, but other race guys....also there are some gay men thats the same way!(no offense anyone) just another one of my crazy curious questions! thanks!

So, just because I'm bisexual and interact with females too....doesn't mean I'mma have that type of attitude once I'm in the gay community (with another guy) and no female around at the time!

People like that are in denial. They only hurt themselves by lying, and sometimes hurt those they love (spouses, friends, etc.) Just my view.

because they are not gay. they are bisexual. meaning they interact with women also. gays dont.

EDIT: yeah, well if there are no females around then he is gay. Maybe its because of the damned society and he feels somewhat embarrassed. but he shouldnt.

Wow. I don't know. You're the pro. I never heard of this until just now.

"Being the top" is generally considered the traditional male role in sex, regardless of the actual sex of the participants. Relinquishing this role for that of the traditional female role would be "unmanly" from the simplistic attitude exhibited in the males you describe. They associate the word gay with the female role exclusively as a way of avoiding the connotations associated with the word "gay". But as they say in prison - "if you flip you'll flop."