Thread: If a lesbian tries to find a partner and fails does that mean she might not be...

...lesbian after all? I was debating this with a friend. She has had a horrible time in love. She hasn't been on a date in ages and has sort of given up on finding true love. She came out as lesbian about 10 years ago.
I said she just hasn't met the right person, doesn't get out enough and has her standards set a tad high. She agreed but thought that maybe she's not lesbian after all otherwise she thought she'd have had a lover by now. Is this possible? She is sort of butch. I don't think you have to be with someone to prove your sexuality, do you?

Yeah, I agree. I don't think it means she isn't gay. She just hasn't connected with someone who has always connected with her, is single and is willing to have a relationship. She has fallen for women before but it wasn't mutual etc.

no that just means shes not good with the Lady's

I totally agree with you. There are gay priests who have never been with someone in their whole life, but they are still gay.

Nope, even some strait people have this problem. And Bisexual people have this problem too.... so i dont think it has anything to do with the SEX they are dating.