Thread: i think im a lesbian how do i know for sure?

i have had sex with girls before but it was a paid job. but i do find some girls very very attractive

Lesbians don't have boyfriends. Lesbians have girlfriends. That's how you know.

if your lesbian that means you love girls. gay is the same thing but guy with guy

you need to include some details of your behavior so we can tell you.

Human sexuality is often not a binary thing: 100% straight or 100% gay. Some people are a mixture of both, but are most comfortable expressing their sexuality with the opposite sex. If you find yourself fantasizing about women, don't feel pressured to think of yourself as anything but a girl who happened to think about another girl. If you consistently have sex with only girls, and can't imagine being in a lasting romantic relationship with a guy, then yes you're probably a lesbian. But there are an infinite number of variations in human behavior that don't fit that profile, so don't worry. Just be yourself.

After reading your additional details I would have to say that if you're doing some porn or escort work, then it's likely you can already detach a sexual act from being connected to other situations and events. Try the reverse of how you might have already had sex with girls. Have you met a nice, honest sincere lesbian who is not part of any party scene or situation where sex with men is also happening ? See if you feel comfortable with her, or perhaps a bisexual woman. See if you feel relaxed and open to a loving gesture from another woman.

Why r u wasting our time?don't u have common sense?

its actually really simple ask yourself this do you like guys?? if not then if you like girls then yah you could be a lesbian but if you like guys and girls that makes you bi not lesbian and if you dont like girls then well your still straight....and if you dont like guys or girls that makes you i think asexual....but im not sure....

Only you would know if you are a lesbian.

Well, i was gonna ask "do you fantasize about being with a guy or a girl?", but with a "job" like that, maybe you don't bother with fantasizing! :-)

I don't think finding girls attractive is enough to make you lesbian, especially if you find some guys attractive too. If you find any guys physically attractive you are not a lesbian.