Thread: gay relationship i need serious advice ?

my uncles wife is not related to me in any way, other than through the marriage of my uncle's which he is related to my mom side, my mom and my uncle are brothers, my uncles wife has a brother, he is 30, single, and tends to be religious. some people think he is gay, and he seems he hasn't had a relationship with a women, so i bought some college books, and they were delivered to my aunts house, because my house is not stable im away from my home town going to college, so i went yesterday to pick up some books, i waited outside since no one was in the house, finally the guy comes home, and he tells me if i want to go to some religious event, they talk about why homosexuality is wrong and masturbation is also wrong, so we have this long discussion, i asked him if he masturbates he said he does but tries not to, i was like i think its ok to do so, i think one should live a happy live and not hurt no one, do what you like, then i told him if he had sex, he said yeah but when he was 16 with a women, he kept doing it for some times with her, we had a long conversation mostly about sexuality, and views, since he had just gotten from work he told me to give him a second to shower, i was like ok, so he was talking the shower, and the phone rang, later he had the door open of the bathroom and i just called him to answer the phone, so i hand the phone and he was just in towel, i am not sure if he did it in purpose but he drop the towel, and i ended seeing him all naked, he told me he was really sorry, then he went to his room which was straight ahead of the hall from the living room, i was in the living room, and he came out in just underwears, the moment he noticed i saw him, he tried to hide himself and told me he was sorry, i wonder why he didnt finished changeing in his room, well then we ate and keep talking about sexuality, his opinion is that its wrong, pornography is wrong and so its masterbation, later we went to the mall with his sister, and the conversation came up that he was looking for an apartment, which i also am looking towards an apartment, and he told me if he wanted to live together, i know him quite well, i myself am 20, gay, and im closet guy, what do you think i should do, do you think he is gay too? how can i ask him if he is with out letting clues about myself, is it stupid to eventually get involved with him, he does seem interested in me, but i think he is hiding stuff, what about age difference, or does it seem i am over thinking stuff, and i should let him alone?

i know the guy pretty well for years, except the conv always bring homosexuality in, i do think he is in denial, and i do think he is a great guy, we were thinking of renting an apartment together but we are still thinking

I read the first few lines of your question and saw a problem...

"some people think he is gay"

If you don't want to talk about homosexuality with him, tell him. But make sure, first, that he's not wanting just someone understanding to confide in. Judging by the fact that you're confused and asking a public community, you're probably a pretty understanding person.


Edit (finished reading): I read this too...

"i know the guy pretty well for years"

If you know him well, then talk to him. There's no harm in telling him how you feel, and expecting him to tell you how he feels. You can ask if what he did was intentional, I actually think calling people out on stuff (IN PRIVATE *ALWAYS* no matter what the circumstances are) is a GREAT solution to anything that'll ever bother you in life. (My belief: I'm open with my friends and significant others, you can be open with me)

Best of luck! <3