My boyfriend and I have been together for about 8 months and for a good 5 months my boyfriend has been clean. My boyfriend has been smoking since he was 14, he is now 17. He stopped smoking as I didn't like it, I never really knew why but whenever he did it I would instantly get upset. I know people say weed is harmless drug but for whatever reason, I do not think a like.
As I said he had been clean for about 5 months then recently I found messages sent from one of his friends asking where they wanted to smoke the weed he got. I told my boyfriend that if he ever did it again, he had to tell me. However he did not tell me about this time. I got really annoyed and confronted him about it. We almost broke up as this was the 4th time he had lied or hid something from me.
I've given him one last chance as if he does it again without telling me, we will be no longer. The thing that confuses me is that he told me months ago that he was glad he stopped and being clean made him feel much better however now he is telling me that he never wanted to stop altogether because he likes weed. I really do not know what to do. I don't want to take away something he enjoys because I assumed he wanted to stop but the people he was around always had it so he was , in a way, inclined to do so. We discussed this and he said that he wants to do it on rare occasions . I agreed with him but said that he had to tell me before he does it.
I'm aware that I may sound controlling which is the last thing I want to be but it worries me. I don't know why but it does. Especially as the friend he smokes it with is no good at all. He forgets that my boyfriend is in a relationship and tries to get him to look at and chat up girls, then almost forces him to smoke weed even though he knows himself I do not like it. Anyway, I am just confused on what to do?
As I said he had been clean for about 5 months then recently I found messages sent from one of his friends asking where they wanted to smoke the weed he got. I told my boyfriend that if he ever did it again, he had to tell me. However he did not tell me about this time. I got really annoyed and confronted him about it. We almost broke up as this was the 4th time he had lied or hid something from me.
I've given him one last chance as if he does it again without telling me, we will be no longer. The thing that confuses me is that he told me months ago that he was glad he stopped and being clean made him feel much better however now he is telling me that he never wanted to stop altogether because he likes weed. I really do not know what to do. I don't want to take away something he enjoys because I assumed he wanted to stop but the people he was around always had it so he was , in a way, inclined to do so. We discussed this and he said that he wants to do it on rare occasions . I agreed with him but said that he had to tell me before he does it.
I'm aware that I may sound controlling which is the last thing I want to be but it worries me. I don't know why but it does. Especially as the friend he smokes it with is no good at all. He forgets that my boyfriend is in a relationship and tries to get him to look at and chat up girls, then almost forces him to smoke weed even though he knows himself I do not like it. Anyway, I am just confused on what to do?